What are
the common rules for Domina / Slave ?
To
summarize ..
A Domina
/ slave (D/s) relationship is not
One-size-fits-all.
- SSC (Safe, sane, and
consensual) - you know what you're doing and you know how to do it without too
much risk, you're clearheaded and aware of your situation, and you're both
consenting with full heart and mind. Awesome.
- RACK (Risk-aware consensual
kink) -
SSC but you know that even though you're minimizing risk, playing with
breath or knives etc is dangerous and risk cannot be eliminated.
- Respect boundaries - in terms of anonymity,
limits, safewords, physical possessions, human possessions, social
interactions, scene space etc. This is a rule for life, not
BDSM.
- Communication - communicate the fuck
out of everything you do. That's the only way to play safely and
consensually.
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I'll talk
about some things that I think are common rules not just in BDSM, but
everywhere in life. I don't have a whole lot of formal BDSM experience so I
don't feel qualified to speak on dungeon rules or play party rules so I'll just
spit out a few of my own opinions.
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- Don't bug people! Don't waste people's time with
your lame messages on Fetlife that start with "Hey... ;)" and
end with "I want you sucking my cock, you dirty girl haha lol".
Don't act like you're entitled to someone's time or energy!
- Be aware of how your D/s or T/b
role applies in different situations. Especially for Tops and Dominants, don't
be a jerkwad to the submissives because you're a Big Tough Dom and they're
not. Understand that until you're engaged in a scene or relationship with
someone, you're just a person. That's all.
- No kink-shaming. Seriously we've all got fucked
up tastes and even though the idea of age-playing or diapers or whatever
might make you want to vomit, think about how awful you would feel if
someone else acted like your fetishes were the grossest thing on earth. Be
compassionate and don't judge people.
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